Monday, 1 September 2014

No Need To Be Perfect To Inspire Others

No Need To Be Perfect To Inspire Others Quote

There appears to be this unspoken message that to inspire others, to teach, or to share our inner wisdom with the world we need to be perfect. You may see it in the media, on-line, on videos where motivational speakers, writers and teachers spend a lot of time affirming the need to be positive and sharing very little, often none of their human flaws or vulnerabilities - this is a heavy responsibility to carry.

Do we as viewers, readers, students, expect people who inspire others to be perfect?

Friday, 22 August 2014

Desire And Scratching An Itch

Root Suffering Attachment Buddha

We all know what it's like to have an itch that we really want to scratch. Maybe you're washing the dishes wearing rubber gloves, and suddenly the end of your nose begins to itch (this often happens to me), or you're meditating and wanting so badly to scratch your head and find relief - for now.

But inevitably that itch returns, perhaps some place else, but it's still an itch you want to scratch (hands up if you are suddenly feeling itchy right now - grin)  and what on earth does this have to do with desire? 

Desire is that itch - and it never stops!

Friday, 15 August 2014

Becoming Introvert : Re-Awakening The Real You

Introvert Man Sitting Alone Bench

Since I wrote my post 'Shining As An Introvert' I discovered how many introverts had taken on the persona of extrovert, and some going so far as expressing extrovert qualities for most of their adult lives.

I have a friend in his seventies now and I would never had guessed he was an introvert until he told me he was. He told me that he has most of the qualities of an introvert but had to put on the mask of an extrovert to survive in the world. To me he displayed many traits of an extrovert - flamboyant in his speech, socially expressive, a great public speaker and great at teamwork and leading people forward. And I thought he liked and thrived on the attention. Others I have met have carried themselves primarily as extroverts with some introvert traits.


Wednesday, 6 August 2014

You Are Not A Mistake

You Are Not A Mistake Quote Kelly Martin

When I was a little girl, I was brought up with the belief that I was inherently wrong. Making a simple mistake at a really young age I was brought face-to-face with the headmistress of our school. At age 6 it was scary going to that big office. I was made to feel that my mistake was so serious it had embarrassed not only her but the entire school. I am now beginning to see how wrong that statement was, but for 30+ years I carried that 'you are wrong' like a heavy weight across my shoulders that filled my heart with sorrow and suffering.

Thursday, 31 July 2014

Shining As An Introvert - Is It Possible?

Man walking on beach alone

It is easy as an introvert to want to stay in the shadows, in the safety of quiet alone time. Extroverts live for the limelight.  They thrive and are deeply energised by attention and feedback from the world. Social occasions being food for their souls.

Introverts, on the other hand, retreat into their own world, experiencing quiet reflection, nature, and choosing to enjoy smaller social experiences, with fewer people.

So, what happens when an introvert is wanting to share their passions and their creativity with the world? How do introverts promote themselves and be social?

Saturday, 26 July 2014

When Everyone Shines But You - By Kelly Martin

Author Kelly Martin When Everyone Shines But You
So today is the dawn of new era for me. The most fabulous beginning. Something in the making for a very long time, trickling away inside as I have been writing this blog since 2007. My first book is being officially launched today!

When Everyone Shines But You - Saying Goodbye To 'I'm Not Good Enough'

To say this is beyond exciting is too tame a sentence for me. I am being extra mindful to prevent myself leaping into the imaginary future, but I am relishing the moment of a new mode of self expression for me.

As those of you who have been following my blog since 2007, watching my videos on YouTube and keeping in touch on social networks, you will know how much I love to write, love to share and love to inspire people to be who they really are, to accept their human nature, and this book does exactly that.

Friday, 18 July 2014

Being Pollyanna - How To Be A Balanced Human


We may meet that occasional human being with that Pollyanna attitude, always positive; always looking on the bright side; always pouring light and love over any dark or dire situation; but Pollyanna is not whole. Pollyanna is missing half of who she is.

Unfortunately this is what some personal development paths are encouraging - being 'positive' pretty much all of the time. However, being human is not all one-sided, we are a mixture of both 'positive' and 'negative' characteristics.

Friday, 11 July 2014

Are You Chasing Self-Esteem?

Self Esteem Sticky Notes

For the longest time I believed that to have high self-esteem was a worthy goal to aim for. I didn't even realise I had this goal until recently.

Practising mindfulness led me into a less goal/future orientated approach to living and a more 'present moment' experience. Little did I know, lingering in the back of my mind, was the desire to not have low self-esteem and this automatically created the goal of 'high self-esteem'.

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