Happiness - a simple topic right? No! Happiness could be seen as something we all feel and that we all should have as our goal in life, but what if happiness is simply a transient feeling that cannot be pinned down or added to a list of goals in life?
I readily admit that a part of me of course would prefer to feel joy, excitement and peace instead of sadness, rage, anger, fear and envy, but I now recognise that when joy comes it will go, when excitement comes it will go, when sadness comes it will go and so on.
True happiness cannot be found in things that change and pass away. Pleasure and pain alternate inexorably. Happiness comes from the Self and can be found in the Self only. Find your real Self and all else will come with it.
- Nisargadatta Maharaj
In my younger years I always looked outside me for happiness and even in my adult years there is still an element of programming encouraging me to look outside not inside. But the more I meditate, the more I am in the moment, the more I fix my gaze on what is here now, not what is in the future or the pain of the past, happiness bubbles up as a spacious feeling inside me, as if the galaxy is contained within me with all its stars and planets of pure potential.
Happiness is a direct experience arising from your innate nature.~ Jac O' Keefe
For example, you could be in a new relationship and pin all your hopes and dreams on this man or woman, you may get lost in that person and lose who you are, but to your unique knowing, your inner wisdom, this would be a relationship that is not serving to bring you home to yourself.
However, if you are with someone and they become the icing on the cake in your vast life, not the whole cake or the whole enchilada, they become someone who enhances you and encourages you home to yourself - where true happiness lies.
If they were to leave you, yes you may feel heart break, but you would not die or drown, instead you would open up your heart to you and tenderly comfort yourself as you let go of what was.
Seeing Others As YOU
The more time we spend getting to know who we are, the more we experience the entire world as part of us, bringing such a genuine feeling of happiness to see the tree, the bird, the lover, the sky as one with who we are, then separation is removed and all that is left is pure essence.
All external circumstances, activities, possessions and events are designed to keep the mind entertained. But happiness is outside the realm of the mind.
~ Jac O' Keefe
This Moment Is Enough
In my book 'When Everyone Shines But You' these subjects are covered with clarity. To be okay with ‘what is’; to embrace all of who we are; releasing control; then a deep letting go takes place inside. Life naturally evokes happiness from within when we choose to love and be in this moment only.
What is happiness to you?
This post is part of my A to Z blogging challenge. Drop
by tomorrow to see what the letter I will be about.