Sunday, 12 January 2014

Feeling Isolated From Others Can Be A Huge Gift

Man On Cliff Embracing Solitude
Being alone can bring such a beautiful feeling of spaciousness inside.

Prolonged periods of solitude can be a challenge to the ego. As humans we are encouraged to interact, to socialise and to be with our fellow man, but what happens if no matter how hard we try we seem to be isolated from humanity more and more? This can actually be the biggest gift you gave yourself as a soul on planet Earth.

Many moons ago, before I began my spiritual journey consciously, I socialised a lot. My socialising involved drinking a lot of alcohol and going out with people from school, college and later university. After I had come back from travelling around Australia and my world had changed because of an awakening taking place, I began to feel more and more isolated and I didn't understand how I couldn't meet many like-minds.

While friendships have been a challenge (see What Is Friendship And Is It More Challenging In Later Life?) these past few years of being mainly on my own has revealed something far greater than I ever imagined possible, that this isolation was in fact a sacred gift I gave myself.

Society Frowns Upon Loners

Man walking alone
A mindful walk alone can be such a blessing
and helps clear the mind and hear the soul.

Earlier last year I began to interact more, and as a result I was not feeling so isolated. A woman I knew at the time said she felt that I was in my own little bubble, that in a sense it was safe, and I guess she perhaps thought I was trying to escape from humanity. I doubted my isolation and solitude because of this, but now I am without the group I was connecting with, I more than ever feel what a great gift this is.

Being isolated or in solitude can be a blessing or a curse depending on how you view it. If you see it as a curse, you may be racked with loneliness and feel lacking in your everyday life. If you see it as a blessing, you will begin to go within more, begin to see and experience the love and wisdom you had inside you all along. The 'need' for others will lessen as you feel the source within you, the gift of your inner self. This is what periods of isolation and solitude are for.

Take for example Nelson Mandela. Even though his isolation was enforced by prison life, that solitude brought him home to himself. He went through a process of acceptance and eventually loving and being a vehicle for divine love. This could be seen in the years after his time in prison, and the huge effect he had on humanity until his passing last year.

It's easy to compare our isolation or solitude with those who live busy and full lives. We may feel bored, as if we are missing something, but that something will never come from others anyway. Having this time of solitude and isolation can encourage us to seek out a greater source of contentment, of beauty and love from inside our own hearts.

Bartholomew, channelled through Mary-Margaret Moore in 'I Come As Brother' confirms the feelings I've been having about solitude:

"Some of you are very nice people and wonder why you do not have great love in your lives. When you decide to go for a challenging life, you also decide to isolate yourself from those energy fields that give you a feeling of support. For in the end, the only place that you can go for your support is to the "God Within". 

You have learned as you have moved through many lifetimes with others who love you, that the net result is happiness - so much happiness that you sometimes fall asleep! 

Fine, everyone needs a rest, everyone needs to go to the Bahamas or Hawaii for a lifetime. But there are also the steppes of Russia for you to live through."

And Tyberon also adds something similar:

It is the very sense of resulting loneliness that so often feels bitter-sweet and hollow, that compels you to seek the rich ocean of wisdom available to you in rediscovering the vast solace within your own divinity.

This simple realisation can turn a period of loneliness into a period of adventure. Instead of feeling sad and lonely you can become an explorer, but instead of explorer of the outer world, you explore your inner landscape.

Woman Sitting on Bench Alone Reading
Just because we are alone does not mean we have to feel lonely,
we can still be an active participant of planet earth.

Solitude can be such a great gift if we embrace it fully. If we resist it, it can be a hard experience of life. It takes courage to surrender to what is, especially when 'what is' contains only you and hardly anyone else.

Over the past 4+ years it was a challenge for me to embrace solitude. I had my fair share of loneliness and suffering from comparing my life with other people's, but once I began to embrace it, I became a tourist in my own town, always finding something new in nature, discovering the beauty of this alone time.

Are you experiencing a period of solitude or loneliness?

Are you perhaps in the Hawaii of your life?

Or are you going to cross the steppes of Russia and 
become the friend you have been seeking all along?

If you enjoyed this post you may like some of my earlier writing on this topic, see my journey through loneliness and solitude.

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