After following Abraham Hicks for around 4 years, and a more intensive following in my final year, I decided one day to stop watching Abraham Hicks, reading Abraham Hicks and talking about Abraham Hicks.
Prior to this I was always referring to the teachings.
If I was not up to what Abraham was recommending to do, or I would hear other abers speaking about what I needed to do to feel better, find relief, change my life and felt unable to do so, I began to feel quite a failure at these teachings. And when this happened I realised the following:
Prior to this I was always referring to the teachings.
If I was not up to what Abraham was recommending to do, or I would hear other abers speaking about what I needed to do to feel better, find relief, change my life and felt unable to do so, I began to feel quite a failure at these teachings. And when this happened I realised the following:
- I was looking to others i.e Abraham Hicks for answers and solutions to my individual experience of life.
- I was believing Abraham over my inner self, my inner teacher and as such not questioning whether the teachings were right for my individual life path at this time.
- I realised how determined I had been to get Abraham Hicks teachings out to others, almost preaching like an Abe evangelist, not acknowledging there were other routes to a happier life.
- I realised it was time to get off the Abraham Hicks bandwagon and find my own way in life.
And so here I am.
While the essence of Abraham Hicks teachings resonates 'get happy'. The mode in which the teachings are coming across, for me, are overemphasising the 'happy where I am & EAGER FOR MORE'.
It is quite easy to get caught up on the 'if your not happy where you are don't look at it, look at what makes you feel good and if that is what you want in the future, focus on that instead'. It is very easy to skip the happy where you are and go straight to the future focusing and this is where I feel many people may be getting lost, feeling disappointed with the teachings of Abraham Hicks, the law of attraction and the movie 'The Secret'.
Some people are absolutely thriving on the teachings, but I feel everyone is different and what one person needs may differ to what other people need. And this all depends on what life experiences they are choosing to allow into their lives.
Something began bothering me nearing the end of my decision making process, I just kept getting this strong feeling. All these teqhniques, all these exercises, were not helping me with allowing a natural life unfolding to occur. Instead to me, it was these techniques, I was using, as a way to try and control my life, control how manifestations came about. I imagine many people are using the 'effort' of these exercises for the same reason, even if they are not admitting to this.
After a longish period of a low vibe I had a month long period of winning prizes, £200 vouchers, tickets to theatre, food hampers, the list just went on...and this was not after a long period of high vibrational energy thinking or focusing. I came to this inner realisation.
Life flows...
Life unfolds...
In perfect timing...
In the perfect way...
Whatever we do.
I do not believe exercises, effort, focusing brings about 'manifestation' any quicker than it would naturally unfold in ones life. I do believe it makes the ride of life more enjoyable when we appreciate each moment, learn to love life and experiences, but it doesn't make the ride speed forward or bring what we think we want any quicker.
I don't believe what Abraham says about you not needing patience when you are in the vortex in the way the message is given out (or perhaps in the way it is received). This message gave out the impression that if you are happy it will come quicker, whatever 'it' is.
What I felt was beneath that message was 'whatever is unfolding for you in life, will come, naturally, beautifully, in the perfect timing with all the pieces that come together for this to happen and when you feel good about what is, about your present moment (happy where I am) experiences, the 'NATURAL' unfolding of life is just sooo much sweeter.'
It would be great if Abraham could get clearer on this for those following the teachings.
I understand why the Abraham Hicks bandwagon plays up the whole 'happy where I am BUT - EAGER FOR MORE' teaching because the majority of people are not willing or wanting to allow, to be, to relax, to let the natural unfolding of life to occur, they want to have some sense that they are in control. But creating ones reality, does not mean controlling ones reality through pasting happy stickers over feelings, through affirming positively, through spending periods of time focusing on future goals, to me creation is inside me, always. And by my taking my journey inwards, life unfolds.
And often, life unfolds in unexpected ways.
Perhaps all the things we may think we want, and any frustation with that comes along with this, will bring more people back to this place - a desire to feel complete as we are, from within.
And this is where the teaching of Abraham Hicks can come in, that when the physical stuff arrives, it will not matter, because when we enjoy the gifts within, the wealth within, the outer gifts will simply represent the jewels we have had the pleasure of revealing inside.
This is my understanding of Abraham Hicks now. I hope it helps others who may be feeling some of what I felt as I dropped the teachings and went within.
UPDATED INFORMATION:
For those of you that feel you may be addicted to the teachings you like to watch my recent video on this topic.
For more insights on this topic a great writer online can be found at this link : Living Authentically - Fear As A Compass
WOW! I hadn't read this one yet. You hit the nail on the head though! Many of us just want to be happy and that is fine but if we want true liberation, the ego can no longer reign as King or Queen and this transition forces us to face, acknowledge, and forgive/allow all that we have been running from for way too long! So funny our blog entries resonate so much. Thank you for another gem! :) Namaste.
ReplyDeleteThanks Jennifer, we are obviously on the same consciousness stream lol! its great to become aware of these things. Namaste xxxx
ReplyDeleteMy sentiments exactly! I just couldn't live up to their teachings and I think that ignoring reality can be and usually is a dangerous game. Sometimes you just gotta embrace whatever you're feeling, I suspect Esther probably hasn't had the kind of challenges that many of us have which I think is a big reason why Abraham's teachings ultimately aren't for everyone.
ReplyDeleteHiya Andy, yes, I agree. I think many misunderstand the 'not looking at what you dont want and focusing on what you do want', with ignoring what is. Thats what began to put me off Abraham Hicks, the overemphasis on the future instead of embracing what is. After I left the teachings I found a site online called Abraham Hicks sceptic by a lady called Kyra (its in my links section), eye opening! It just goes to show we all need to keep our eyes on our own intuition and not follow gurus and teachers without thought or question. Hugs x
ReplyDeleteAs I posted on a different thread, I was lucky to escape the Hicks teachings with my family intact. One thing I would like to add is that in doing things the "Abraham" way, that is; refusing to look at any reality we don't like, focusing elsewhere and getting happy at all costs, can be extremely dangerous to anyone who has a propensity towards addictions. Not only does the addictive personality study Abraham-Hicks to the point of abstraction, those teachings fall right into the groove of validating the addict's behaviors. Avoid reality and get into a good feeling place no matter what it takes? You bet! Let's avoid the marital problems that come up and go have an affair. It's a lot more fun, and if your spouse is bothered, it just means your spouse is not as "aligned" as you are. Or go ahead and swallow those narcotics! After all, they take away the stings and bring on the happy happy joy joy!
ReplyDeleteDo I sound just a little bit angry? You bet. I am still picking up the pieces of my marriage and that requires facing reality, caring about the pain we have caused others, and riding through those dark times knowing that we are strong enough, bad feelings won't kill us, and part of being human is feeling pain, learning about those deep wounds and compassionately helping our sisters and brothers on our journey, no matter what we feel in this life.
The fear of pain is the driving force behind all addictions, and the driving force behind the Abe-Hicks teachings.
Congratulations for escaping, none too soon. There are those saying that Esther/Abe is the Second Coming of Christ. Yikes. Not that I believe either one, but biblically they are more like the anti-Christ, or at the very least, Jezebel as written about through the Apostle John.
Thanks for letting me type. It's all part of the deprogramming therapy, I guess.
:-)
Hi Carol, thanks so much for popping by to my site from the other thread. You just let it all out. I can totally understand that you would feel angry.
ReplyDeleteThat is a really good point about the addictive personality I had not really thought about it that way. I can be like that, with me its all or nothing sometimes, and with Abraham Hicks it was ALL, but thankfully my intuition and God within my own heart let me know it was time to let it go and trust myself instead. Best thing I ever did. I am still amazed when I compare the me back then to the me now. For the first time in my life I am genuinely feeling good. And it wasn't just Abraham I had to drop but all spiritual teachers. And in doing so I became my own guide.
Now any insights or messages from others simply reflect back at me what I know inside, or they don't, its much more simple.
Much much love to you, keep in touch, hope everything comes back into balance for you.
Kelly xxxx
Darn. I wrote what I wanted to say, but when I tried to preview it, my whole post disappeared. I'll try again In a few days... Keep up the clear thinking, my friend!
ReplyDeleteOne thing I have learned from doing the "focus wheel" exercise...You can't change a whole life programming just thinking different for a moment. This requires acceptance, you can not change something you do not admit, just thinking the opposite! Your brain is already running something called CONDITIONING. Ignoring reality is ignoring the present moment, the only thing we have. Surrendering is the only choice, accepting we are there and doing our best to pass unharmed. You can improve a chatter with another chatter, would you let up a fire with gasoline? The way is quieting thoughts, so your true essence can flow. Meditation is the way. I got very puzzled when Abraham said to a participant that living in meditation was a very boring life! Really? Meditation the way I learned with Osho happened to help me discover my inner peace, my self-love, MY truth. But like he says, when you practice it frequently then you won't need mediators, then they are left, not getting MONEY anylonger...I enjoy listening to teachers because they somewhow help me to get in touch with my Essence, but also I have learned to feel inside when enough is enough!
ReplyDeleteHi, thanks for popping by my site. How true. Its not as simple as flicking a switch, especially when many of us have conditioning and patterns that need looking at and embracing first. And ignoring reality is ignoring the present moment. Meditation is not boring if you take the label of meditation life is a meditation when you are fully present with it. Boredom only sets in when you are not present. For example the other day I thought I needed to lay on my bed and sit and be with my feelings and thoughts, just sit and be. My body and mind had other plans. What was best for me was not sitting and being but getting up and dancing around my flat. Completely present, a dancing meditation.
DeleteHi Kelly- I just visited your you tube site :)
ReplyDeleteI hope many take you up on your "try a week without Abe" challenge.
Hi Mariah, thanks for visiting the Abraham video I did. I should post it in this blog entry so may do that in a moment.
DeleteIt will be interesting if many people do take me up on the challenge of going without and see how they manage without the teachings for a week. I know if they are addicted they will know right away. Hugs to you, I check out your site, good stuff!
Hi Kelly!
ReplyDeleteYou are making such a good point. I have been reading Abraham-Hicks and for me it has been important to get to their teachings. But if you just go into it as you describe I agree that it can be dangerous, addicting and brain washing. I had my brainwashing lesson with another spiritual knowledge for more than a decade ago and the feeling was exactly what you describe. The preaching, the arrogance, the dependence, and life turning worth and when you realise you can not think for yourself any longer. That''s why your post is so interesting and meaningful. Because when you're not aware of this process it's so easy to go into it. And it happens a lot in people that are spiritual in some way, that suddenly they think they have the One and Only Truth, they start preaching and they stop listening to their inner voice, they loose contact with their inner knowledge by following someone's else totally.
Thank you for your honesty and authenticity!
Eager for what's coming means just that...be happy where you are and eager for what's coming because we are always evolving from the present moment~it's not meant to encourage one to live out of the present moment as your feelings are what ground you to the present; how are you feeling now, now, now. It's the thoughts that matter~you can be eager for what's coming in an hour. The teachings aren't meant to make you want to escape~they are just the opposite. Just my perspective~
ReplyDeleteTotally agreed. I listen when I want upliftment, not addicted on the least. There was a time when I couldn't get enough but it only enhanced my life, never took away. You can easily find negative in any practice... they do not teach you to be irresponsible. Get imto parallel realities and it should solve your "don't look at reality" issue. You would realize why Abraham is correct to say this. Bashar goes into clarifying detail. And even explaains about echoes, will should help you further.
DeleteAbraham-Hicks is very clear about listening to your own voice and following your own intuition. I personally don't think they emphasize the future to the expense of the present. Just shows you what you do/don't resonate with.
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone for sharing your experiences. I appreciate your views and how you have experienced Abraham Hicks. It appears I have had a bit of a Troll monster on my blog lately swearing and calling people names LOL! OH well Trolls will be trolls, so apologise if the words caused offence. They made me chuckle.
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ReplyDeletethis is my first comment in the world of the web...as yourself i must comment on abraham hicks.
i have just spent 2 solid days listening to these "teachings"
In the early 1990's the New Age Movement came to my awareness. My intuition and wisdom went "nay" no. no. no
So here I go...taking truths from the Holy Bible and putting intricate spins on the Word...claiming the deep mysteries and teachings in the Bible as their original position. and always subtle or non, pulling people away
After the 2 days I listened to does the devil exist and the answer was direct=no he doesn't exist. the most coveted lie of the devil is to convince people he doesn't exist. The intense seduction at this time for souls is at its extreme.
The next was is Jesus the Son of God. Answer by abraham hicks was no. Just a guy who has come back to achieve perfect alignment with source. Jesus taught to test the spirits. I was taught to ask the spirit if it believed that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh and or is the Son of God.Therefore, abraham hicks, Failed.
I feel deep within your consciousness ABE teachings did serve you well,cause if you are in tune with yourself you will follow your own guidance which you obviously did.SO therefore it worked.You can't serve two gods
ReplyDeleteBest answer yet. Exactly what I was thinking.
DeleteI'm so glad that I came across your video on youtube, I've been hicksing solidly for about a week now and so far I've found it to be uplifting and a valuable reminder of many things, including that in the end, any teacher or teachings can only take you so far, you have to rely on your own inner guidance. I personally feel that its all a paradox anyway, whats good for some is not for others or different times call for different approaches. With so many paths to love/self/god etc, and beyond duality, there can be no right or wrong way in my opinion. It sounds like hicks has brought you closer to yourself in one way or another. I must admit that yesterday i started thinking 'hmm, why am I still watching this stuff, surely that means that I'm still vibrating a lack of something somewhere within my being if I need to keep coming back for more' It sounds to me like you have graduated! I do agree that the material is somehow addictive and she certainly inspires an eagerness, which I kind of like actually. I only started to question the teachings after seeing your video and I'm glad that I did (of course the other part of me was asking 'why am I attracting this to myself' !!! lol). I guess I'm feeling slightly brainwashed by it all too upon reflection, but I think if I immersed myself in anything for 7 days I would be feeling pretty much the same. Love reigns supreme. blessings. x
ReplyDeleteI'm sorry but your complaints seem to come from a total non understanding of what she is saying. She clearly says look inside yourself for answers not her..why follow someone around for for years, anyone. All religions.pretty much day the same thing focus inside have faith, surrender your worries to the lord and think on "whatsoever things are pure, just, good.." Philippians. No one can any what you focus on is what you see what you creat in life, if you believe is horrible it is, but if you have happiness, peace and joy in your mind eye are undisturbed by gain or loss, that'd from buddhist.
ReplyDeleteAnonymous, why don't you post with your real name? You have come and posted many comments without being brave enough to post your real name. I don't even feel you read my blog above because you completely did not respond to it. So many 'Abers' coming here to dismiss or disagree with my 'personal' experience of the the Hicks. Ask yourself why you feel the need to stand up for the Hicks? And thanks for the continuing traffic to my blog this is all good! Interesting since I turned off all the negative comments on my video I am getting a railroad of 'Abers' needing to prove me 'wrong' this proves me right actually LOL
DeleteThere are many great benefits to the Abraham teachings, I never thought that they over emphasized ignoring reality.
ReplyDeleteIn fact I think the main point ever made is that you are the one who creates your own reality through the thoughts that you have and more importantly that you are responsible for yourself - basically there are NO victims. Everything you do, you do to yourself because physical reality is a REFLECTION of what is going on inside.
You get what you believe, so if you believe that you need to feel that there is something wrong with abraham teachings, your reality will reflect that for you every time.
And I don't call myself an aber as I dont listen to them all that much, but when i feel like it I find it very uplifting.